The other day I met a girl that had just arrived in Sydney. She found shared accommodation in a place with 6 Korean guys and 2 other Korean girls. On her first day in Sydney, the first piece of advice her Korean male flatmates gave her was “don’t date Australian guys” – all 6 of them. Just in case that it might lead to dating, she was also told not to meet Australian guys. The reasons were that Australians were bad, untrustworthy, insincere, treated Korean girls badly etc.
She told me about this but I can’t say I am shocked because every single Korean girl is told exactly the same thing. As far as I know there are no Australians telling people not to date Korean men or giving reasons as to why they should be singled out as uniquely immoral or bad. Yet there seems to be a whole movement in Sydney among Koreans (especially Korean men) that want to racially slander Australians as a somehow morally and ethically inferior people.
As an Australian that can speak Korean, I have long regretted that understanding Korean means that I have to know the degree of contempt that we are held in by Korean immigrants and foreign students (the foreign students don’t matter though because they return to Korea – the immigrants are here forever). If the average Australian were able to understand this kind of thinking, they certainly would not be so enthusiastic about Korean immigration, and certainly would not consider Korean immigrants a ‘model minority’.
Are the morals and ethics of Korean men so good that they look down from their pedestals and pass judgment? I don’t think so. It is hypocrisy, pure and simple. If they could date Australian girls, they would, but they can’t so they have to make sure Korean girls are tightly controlled and corralled. It is the fear of mating competition, and despite protestations, the fact that a great many Australian men are sincere, kind, trustworthy, and would treat Korean girls with respect.
The funny thing is that warning the girls off meeting Australian (“foreigners”) doesn’t even work. It just makes girls want to find out if it is true or not, and the only way they can do that is to interact with Australians.
Update: I was with a friend and three Korean girls this morning in a 24 hour Korean restaurant and when one of the girls went to the toilet she was followed by a Korean guy who intercepted her and told her not to meet foreign guys. When she got back she told the other girls what happened (and by default us too, since my friend and I both speak Korean). I can’t say I was surprised, and neither was my friend, who has experienced similar things many times. One mitigating fact for the ‘oppa’ is that he was obviously very drunk.