Duc, sequere, aut de via decede!

70 to 80 percent of Korean married couples seeking counselling are in sexless marriages

September 25th, 2011 . by Errol

“I meet over 1,000 married couples a year, and 70 to 80 percent are sexless marriages. That means at least one person in each couple is having an affair. No other issue in this country is more serious.” Kim Young-hee, head of the Family Mediation Committee at Seoul Family Court.

“When women have affairs it is far more lethal to the marriage. While 90 percent of husbands who have had affairs eventually return to the family, less than 10 percent of unfaithful wives do,” Kim said. “I think this is because men have affairs for pleasure, but women to be loved.”

That comment by Kim Young-hee implies that the women didn’t marry for love.

The Chosun Ilbo, Dec. 10, 2009

That hypothesis matches the survey done by Matchmaking company Baroyeon that found that; “Among men, 71.6 percent said they would commit to a relationship, whereas 77.6 percent of women said they would test the waters first and meet other people before making their mind up.”

The Joseon Ilbo, Sep. 22, 2011

Then what are we to make of this research?

Married couples where the wife has stronger decision-making power tend to have less sex than those where the relationship is the other way round, according to a study led by Michelle Hindin at the Bloomberg School’s Department of Population, Family and Reproductive Health at Johns Hopkins University.

The Chosun Ilbo, Sep. 23, 2011

Among all (Korean) couples who (married in 2010), 14.9 percent involved a younger man and an older woman, accounting for 1 in 6 couples.

The Chosun Ilbo, Apr. 21, 2011

Who has the power in a Korean marriage? The seonbae or the hubae? Perhaps they married a young, cute man for love. Or perhaps they married a young, rich man because there is a shortage of women, and even the dreaded Korean mother-in-law must accept that an “old miss” is better than a “no miss” … if she wants to see little Sonja.

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